Happy牛Year

Alas, it's been ages since I've last visited here. As usual been busy procrastinating. Lunar New Year has come to our nice city again. Having celebrated many many CNY, yes I am that old, I still look forward to the merry making, the gambling and the food asscociated with it. It's the time whereby families come together and catch up with one another.

However, the shrewd eye observer will notice that behind all the joyous celebration lies an intricate balancing act. All the family members want to appear to be doing well while, as the chinese saying goes, each family holds a difficult to read sutra. For the most part, I have learnt over the years to stand from afar and observe these going-ons with amusement or if not, a detached disinterest. Such as when one auntie complains how they were ill-treated by their daughter-in-law or when the daughter of the grandmother acts the dutiful daughter. These scenes no longer moved me as much.

Having said that, again however, sometimes I still get affected when the incidents happen too close to home. Such as how the married sibling hinting openly that they would like lunch to be started earlier. Now my parents are old and as they grow older, they see the sibling lesser and lesser due to the fact that the sibling is not staying with us and that the in-law does not like to come back to visit. I guess as with all of us, the longing to see our own flesh and blood gets more obvious with age. Thus, of course they will try harder to please the sibling to have a chance that they will come home. To tell them that it's too early might be risking them not coming home. Despite this joyous season, I feel sad when I know for the most part, we are not as closely knit a family as we hope to be or show to be. It's all about intricately balancing the wants and the needs of every family member and sometimes it gets tiring when one or another does not do his/her part.

But of course, every family has their difficult to read sutra. Mine would not be harder than others. I hope it gets easier. I was speaking to my better half, yes I am surprisingly attached for over a year now, on whether I should always let things affect me. While she gave the PC answer which is both yes and no, in truth the answer is most of time a yes and no answer. Maybe in that sense I lack character but I think that's how I was brought up. Same goes for how my siblings act, it's how they were brought up so perhaps it is a part of my parents doing.

In any case, I am going all over the shop with this. During this festive season, let me wish everyone a Happy Lunar Year.


Good night Singapore.

Projects, projects, projects...

Sometimes I wonder why every company and every group have the same problem of not being able to walk away. Even when the opportunity is minute and the effort to proceed is great. Guess I'll be stuck in KL till the end of time. Good night Singapore.

Devastated

How can you show someone you love her so much and that you would do anything for her and that she means so much to you that you can possibly imagine when she tells you that she can't feel your love...

The Ugly Netizen

Here are some reasons why one should minimise associating with people on the web:

1) They carry a lot of emotional baggage. Be it coming from a family with single parenthood, low self esteem, emotional upheavals and such. So they tend to be either be overly weary of most people or they are too trusting to some classes of people whom they lacked in life.

2) They are deadly gossip mongers. Now with the advancement of communication, you can basically hear one rumour from one person and disseminate that to 100 well-connected others in a matter of seconds. Most lack the judgement of validating the rumours prefering to extrapolate the hearings. It's kind of like that childhood game we used to play when a group of kids would pass on a message from one person to another and see what we will get at the end. Each re-telling gets more fantastic than the previous one. And that's the word to use, Fantastic. It's like fantasy, not real but exciting enough to get the other person interested in giving their attention to you.

3) Yes, and most of the time they tend to be ugly as well.
4) There's still more but I lack the interest of continuing.

Good night Singapore.

Merry X'mas

For once, I had a wonderful festive season with someone I adore. It was a simple dinner at an relatively "ulu" (Singaporean slang for less known) place. The food was really quite average but nowadays I feel that I am beginning to enjoy the laidback feeling more and more. After which we went for a nice house party, followed by 2nd and 3rd round drinks with friends.

Next up will be my trip to Korea with momsie. Looking forward to my virgin experience with skiing. Hope it's fun and I don't freeze my butt off. Good Day Singapore.

Holidays

A string of holidays are coming up and one just can't help but feel abit excited. Though the prospect of having to work over the festives dampens it slightly.

Currently blogging through my office email. Kind of user friendly. The day's about to end and I can't wait to Mambo, a Singaporean phenomenon.

Good evening Singapore.

Moved...

Moved here. Hello Singapore.